You know those people who say “yes!” to every opportunity? Who totally live their life like the guy in the movie “Yes Man”?
Well….that is NOT me!!! I consider myself an outgoing introvert, meaning I enjoy socializing and going out with people, but my energy and “recharging” comes from alone/quiet time. So, I have to find a good balance between things I say “yes” to and things I say “no” to.
If you’re someone who thrives off of being super busy/overbooked (and I totally know people who are like this!) then you might not struggle with this too much! And that is completely fine/admirable. You go, girl!
However, I think everyone could use a little down time to really enjoy doing the things you love with the people you love. And a sure-fire way to do this is to learn when to say “no” to some opportunities.
When to Say “No”:
It detracts from the good stuff
If you commit yourself to doing something that is taking away from the good in your life, this might be a time to say “no”.
It brings you (useless) stress
I think that a little dose of some kinds of stress are OK and useful. When you have a big test coming up, that sense of stress to get yourself in gear to study: useful. However, if you are doing something that is causing undue stress, skip it. Being stressed out all the time is not fun.
It makes you think, “that wasn’t worth it”
One year from now, would this thing you are spending time doing be something you’d be glad you did? (Say that five times fast) If not, it’s probably not worth your time or energy.
When to Say “Yes”:
It brings you joy
If you think about an opportunity and it fills you with joy, or you think it will bring you joy in the future, this is a time to say “yes!”
It makes you better
Sometimes the things we do are not the easiest, but if you know something will make you a better person, go for it. Improving yourself is not always the most fun thing to do, but something that will probably be worth your time and energy.
It makes you think, “that was worth it”
I think it’s pretty easy to decide if we will look back on something and think it was worthwhile. But I know sometimes it is not as clear, and in those cases you will just have to make a decision based on other factors.
Obviously these are just some ideas to think about, not hard and fast rules. Everyone is different, and everyone can handle different loads of responsibilities. I think it’s important to know what you can handle without driving yourself insane.
On another note, I realize that there are some things in life we have no choice but to say “yes” to. The opportunities I’m talking about are more of the things we have control over, and the “extras” in life. In some cases, you must…
I hope this could help anyone out there who is a chronic indecisive person, like myself. I have always struggled with making choices and committing to the right stuff. To those of you who are quick-to-decide about everything, be so grateful of that quality!
Do you have a go-to way to make decisions about how to fill your time? It may be totally obvious to some people, but not to me!
I think I’ll spend the rest of my night browsing Pinterest. So I’m clearly a reputable person to teach you how to spend your time… 😉